Internet dating

[Drop Bear]

Yes, I've tried internet dating and met 7 women. Three rejected me,I rejected four.

Most worthwhile thing I learned;people use euphemisms to the point of bare faced lying. Some of my favourites were the following self descriptions:

Cuddly : Morbidly obese.

Social drinker: alcoholic.

Honest: blunt and insensitive

Good conversationalist: poor listener.

A simple person; semi literate,close minded and ignorant.

Deeply spiritual: Profoundly superstitious,possibly a loony new ager or worse, a happy clappy proselytising evangelical who causes you to spill your coffee with a sudden loud, "PRAISE THE LORD!".


Currently some American mob is advertising on TV here,claiming a high success rate because of their scientific method of matching compatible people. In my opinion the claim of valid scientific method is not simply misleading,but untrue. I'm aware of no simple,reliable way of determining personal compatibility. I suspect using astrology would give the same or greater success rates. :The claim is that of all people married in the US each year,2% claim they met online.

Sounds like a scam to me.

DISCLAIMER: I am NOT saying don't use internet dating services. I'm suggesting caution together with realistic expectations. BY that I mean NO expectations, only a mild hope. You WILL meet some very strange people, including the odd bunny boiler.(I met one) Most will be OK, but not special.I guess just dandy if one is desperate and willing to root anything. I wasn't.

[polomint38]

I'm confused, I thought this was a dating site

Is this why everyone blocks my PM's, you'd think with my profile picture they would be queueing to date me

[Spaceboy]

Just wanted to say that it can work... I've used internet dating for a number of years and met some right loonies too, however I eventually found someone who I really connected with, and we're now married with 2 kids

So, in short, don't give up, you just might find someone right for you

[Harryprice]

Regarding euphemisms: we are what we are and we have to 'sell' ourselves as best we can. Profound honesty could leave you profoundly alone!

[Croydon Bob]

I'm confused, I thought this was a dating site

Is this why everyone blocks my PM's, you'd think with my profile picture they would be queueing to date me

1. Having met you in the real world, I'm not surprised that you use that picture.

2. The only reason that I stopped dating you was that your last cheque bounced.

[Drop Bear]

Regarding euphemisms: we are what we are and we have to 'sell' ourselves as best we can. Profound honesty could leave you profoundly alone!

Agreed,but there is a big difference between candor and bare faced lying.

---and there are far worse things than being alone. I think people tend to conflate solitude with loneliness,when they are not the same thing.

@Spaceboy

I began this thread because of a dishonest and annoying TV ad I keep seeing,not because I'm looking for love.

At 62 I am no longer remotely interested in another relationship. I've had many relationships,several which lasted years. I was also married for 12 years. I've been infatuated many times and 'in love' twice, once at 20 and once at 47. Enough is enough.

[smudge]

Hey Drop Bear; I'm sure we're all dying to know which "euphemisms" you found most effective in describing yourself?!

[Drop Bear]

Hey Drop Bear; I'm sure we're all dying to know which "euphemisms" you found most effective in describing yourself?!

Eupemisms? ME?


Mate I call a spade a fucking shovel.

Not my fault if people think I'm joking.

My self descriptions have included: "I'm 5' 11,university educated, moderately bright with a broad sense of humour. I have wicked hazel eyes and a nice arse.(I've been told) Overweight but not obese,balding--------"

--then a bunch of stuff about my interests which include travel and horizontal fok dancing. (IE Yes, I will almost certainly try to get into your pants)----Finishing with;skeptic, atheist, cynic, misanthrope and do not suffer fools.

Replies? Not a great many as it turned out.

Oh,be very wary of mature age social work students, they're often a bit off.

[smudge]

Replies? Not a great many as it turned out.
.

Hmm...
Not too effective then?!

[Rose]

Nothing beats eyes meeting across a crowded room.

[Croydon Bob]

Nothing beats eyes meeting across a crowded room.

That was how me and polomint met. He threw his glass eye at me.

[Rose]

Thanks for the giggle.

[Smiles302]

Replies? Not a great many as it turned out.

Never say never.

I don't think those dating sites are too bad. Match people up with their education and a couple of similar interests and at least ye should have something to talk about if it comes to a date.

I met one guy on plentyoffish, was a strange experience. He didn't seem bothered, he was late and arrived in a tracksuit top, jeans and dirty shoes. So much for a passion for science he seemed completely clueless.
I think if I was to try it again I would go for one of the sites you have to pay to use, I imagine people would take it a bit more seriously then.

[Solarflair]

Oh,be very wary of mature age social work students, they're often a bit off.

This goes for all mature students in any subject. This may be an unfair generalisation, but every single one of them, without exception, will talk about their kids, drivel on about their myriad illnesses (with a great deal of pride, for some reason) and make 'old-people' noises.

And then they'll justify this inane crap by claiming that their mediocre, banal life experiences are somehow relevant to the seminar!

I left Uni 12 years ago and I still carry a completely rational hatred of those bastards.

[DrS]

This isn't typical of the mature students I've taught, and I've taught a few. In my experience they are enthusiastic, committed, convinced they aren't as bright or quick-witted as the young (which means they're not cocky and have no need to indicate a high level of "boredom"), and have a perspective, desire and determination that I often wished young students would show.